Life isnt about finding yourself-Life is about creating yourself=Oscar Wilde
LIFE ISNT ABOUT FINDING YOURSELF
LIFE IS ABOUT CREATING YOURSELF
Life is about both finding and creating yourself. Oscar Wilde specialized in the
paradoxical, the controversial, the contrasting as these became his social hallmarks. The
volumes of poems, proverbs and quotes contain a wealth and depth of wisdom that is
occasionally inconsistent with the actual experience of man.
The journey that man makes to find himself is a deeply spiritual one and was described
by Herman Hesse in the book Siddhartha in which he states ‘ the most important journey
a man will make is the journey to find him’. Life is therefore partly about finding you and
then creating on the person found. An alternative and interesting way to interpret this
particular statement would be to understand the timing and rates at which these different
processes occur. For example as the search commences so does the creation and the two
paths advance in an intertwining fashion, dependent on each other. This description more
accurately describes the spiritual journey of man.
It is important to remember that Oscar Wilde, as witty and smart as he was, lived during
the Victorian era and even though he was a social revolutionary he was still a product of
that era. This would explain the simplicity of the above statement in that the Victorians
had little comprehension of the internal spiritual journeys of for example Hindu mystics.
Life definitely is about creating yourself and choosing the path along which you will
walk. A question that is often asked is how does a man create his character. Part of the
answer lays in the fact that each individual is born with certain character traits and it is
upon these that the experiences of life mold the character. Of more importance than the
occurring event is the manner in which the man deals with the challenge. This result of
this interaction is actually the more defining element of character formation.
Surrounding yourself with challenging people and situations is more likely to motivate
you to a higher level of achievement. However the higher one goes the fewer individuals
can be found and at some point you will find yourself alone in a position of power having
achieved your goal while simultaneously building your character. People are generally
not born with the substance of character necessary for success in the modern world and it
is the gifts of hardship that imbue the traits associated with success. Tenacity, resilience,
determination and the absolute belief in self. Doubt creates a weakness that if not rapidly
neutered incorporates itself into the fabric of character. As the old adage goes ‘ power
perceived is power achieved’ and doubt will unquestionably be perceived as a weakness.
Some people never find their inner selves and will travel through the wrong avenues of
life finding nothing but disappointment. Peace and serenity constantly evade them
making their search decidedly more frantic. These troubled souls are usually some of the
early spiritual travellers and must go through several lifetimes before they begin to
approach self-realization. Their lack of spiritual depth is obvious to the seasoned traveller
and it is unusual for these individuals to be attracted to each other. Souls of a similar age
are immediately pulled towards each other and quite often continue their journey
The people we surround ourselves with are both a reflection and extension of our own
experiential essence as quite often are the places we inhabit. Every human has a unique
vibration that synchronizes with similar frequencies and when this happens it is
frequently described as a sense of ‘being connected’. This appreciation of the deeper
channels of communication allow the fortunate individuals to develop an understanding
more sophisticated than those made at more superficial levels. The vibration of other
people can change us for the better or worse depending on their frequency. This almost
invisible form of transformation is based on the hard science of quantum physics, which
also come very close to explaining the concept of consciousness. The creation, therefore,
of ourselves cannot occur in a vacuum and is without question the amalgamated result of
people, places and experiences.
The more that we create the easier it becomes to find. The analogy would be that of the
comparative ease of finding a skyscraper to the challenge of finding a single brick. Life
and its experiences allow the spirit to evolve which then searches for the self with greater
ease and efficiency. The interaction or points of spiritual friction are essential stepping-
stones towards enlightenment and each challenge that we are presented is actually an
opportunity for creation. It is from the ashes of war that great civilizations have raised
and it can be argued that had the total destruction of Germany not occurred after WW II
then Germany would probably not be the economic powerhouse it is today.
Loss, death, pain, = opportunity=growth=creation.
Throughout history nothing of importance has ever come from a place devoid of conflict.
The nature of battle encourages the development of character and perspective, two of the
most critical elements of creation. Without war it is very likely that man and technology
would have experienced a more stunted evolution. Violent bloodshed can only ever be
justified in the context of self-preservation and although a part of war has, in my opinion,
no creative value although I am sure there would be some counter arguments.